Your Purpose is Hiding in Plain Sight

I believe your purpose is not something outside of you waiting to be found. Purpose is hiding in plain sight in each one of us. Purpose is in the opportunities God places before you to love, serve, and impact others. Purpose is what you choose to say yes to everyday.

The experiences, desires, and gifts already live within you -- they are not accidents—they are part of your calling. When you learn to recognize where God is inviting you to serve, you begin to walk confidently in the purpose He has designed specifically for you. And, you begin to look for it every day.

My mission is to help you discover your unique purpose. Together, we will uncover who God has created you to serve. He prepared them in advance for you. We will identify the needs you are equipped to meet, and build the confidence to live from your calling instead of searching for it.

My own adoption story has shaped the way I serve. As someone whose identity is rooted in God's adoption of me through Jesus Christ—as His beloved child and co-heir—I have a unique passion for those touched by adoption: adoptees, adoptive moms and birth mothers. I understand questioning of identity, belonging, and worth, and I create a space where those wounds can be acknowledged with compassion and hope.

My coaching is about more than setting goals. It is about soothing the soul, strengthening identity, and helping you see yourself through God's eyes. When you work with me, you will develop transparency about your purpose, confidence in your calling, and the courage to embrace the opportunities God places before you each day.

You don't need to find your purpose. You need to extract the one God has already been revealing to you through the person He created you to be.

Two Areas My Coaching Can Help You Thrive in the Adoption Arena

I am a unique kind of Life Coach. My approach is different than what you may understand about Life Coaching.

Life Coaching is planning forward for the future.

I help my clients think forward, plan forward and build forward. There is really nothing in the past you need. The past is what brought you to this point: needing guidance. So, let me help you grow into something different than your past.

No one stood at a river wondering how they would cross and plan to built a bridge backwards in the opposite direction. No one, on their 10th anniversary, started planning their wedding.

No one builds a bridge backwards

#1 Relationships

Many adoptees want to build relationships using a backwards model of reclaiming or experiencing everything they have lost in the past.

I am here to help you move forward in relationships where you had to jump right in the middle of with no prior history. I don’t help you look back. I help you build a bridge forward, planning forward and thinking forward. I guide you to other paths when a bridge is not possible. That is hope even amid the scars.

There is HOPE even amid scars

#2 Behaviors

Many adoptees have identified their destructive behaviors— they don’t need the identification process. They need the strategies to help them move forward.

I am a different kind of Life Coach because I discuss behaviors in the present. I help them explain what they do. I discuss their future. I help them see what is possible and how to choose it in the future.

I don't start with the past and go forward. The past is only useful to motivate you to create the steps that help you move forward. What has caused the behavior will come out, but examining the past I will leave up to counselors and psychologists. We all have our place.

My method is a forward thinking approach for my clients. I have two nicknames from friends that are appropriate and that explain my method: George, like the curious monkey and Tigger, like the positive, bouncy tiger. I want to instill a curiosity and wonder for knowledge that changes lives while pointing you to gratitude and positivity even in the midst of the storm around you.

Positivity in storms

Are you curious about the possibilities that my coaching can open up? Are you willing to focus on ever ounce of gratitude while in your storm?

Let's chat. First session is free to see if my services can benefit you and we will make a plan.

Email me at https://www.steepedinpurpose.com/contact

or text to schedule a chat at 817-992-3177.

To buy my book, Adoption Reimagined: Building Relationships in the Adoption Arena and What To Do When It Doesn't Work, click the link here.

Adoption ReImagined Excerpt: Chapter 4 Brain Health (Part 1)

My goal in this chapter is to explain what might have contributed to shaping your brain’s pathways and give you strategies to repair the broken pathway between the automatic systems in your brain and the logical, thinking part that helps you respond appropriately to drama, stress and disrespect others exhibit. I want to give you coping skills that make the ‘jump’ from involuntary reactions to intentional actions that are shorter in duration and less intense.

The human brain is so much more complex than a computer because we can pull from the past while living in the present and it affects our future. That is why being content and settled is so hard, we can’t put aside those bad experiences in the past. They affect our thinking, our actions and reactions.

Adoption is one of those circumstances that can lead to so many feelings and questions. Many times, even the answers and facts can’t satisfy because they cannot erase the previous feelings and long held beliefs. Logic from our neocortex does not help override the emotions we have created.

I have a very wise friend who deals with several mental illnesses who said, “Prepare your mind in the stable times for the unstable moments. Fill your mind with good things like scripture, music with positive messages, books that encourage and TV shows with wholesome messages. What you put into your mind,” she says, “will come to the forefront in times of panic and mania.” She practices surrounding herself with good people she trusts that understand how to help, encourage and support. She is open and honest with those people. She spends time with them volunteering, eating, shopping and worshiping together.

Reimagine your adoption by saying this below. Write it. Post it on a sticky you can see easily. Take it to heart. If you have learned emotions from your previous experiences, whatever they are, you can also avert them, recreate them and refocus on different ones, too. Try it 30 days!!

Adoption is a fact in my life. Adoption is not a guide. Adoption is not an obstacle. Adoption only has the power I give it.