Two Areas My Coaching Can Help You Thrive in the Adoption Arena

I am a unique kind of Life Coach. My approach is different than what you may understand about Life Coaching.

Life Coaching is planning forward for the future.

I help my clients think forward, plan forward and build forward. There is really nothing in the past you need. The past is what brought you to this point: needing guidance. So, let me help you grow into something different than your past.

No one stood at a river wondering how they would cross and plan to built a bridge backwards in the opposite direction. No one, on their 10th anniversary, started planning their wedding.

No one builds a bridge backwards

#1 Relationships

Many adoptees want to build relationships using a backwards model of reclaiming or experiencing everything they have lost in the past.

I am here to help you move forward in relationships where you had to jump right in the middle of with no prior history. I don’t help you look back. I help you build a bridge forward, planning forward and thinking forward. I guide you to other paths when a bridge is not possible. That is hope even amid the scars.

There is HOPE even amid scars

#2 Behaviors

Many adoptees have identified their destructive behaviors— they don’t need the identification process. They need the strategies to help them move forward.

I am a different kind of Life Coach because I discuss behaviors in the present. I help them explain what they do. I discuss their future. I help them see what is possible and how to choose it in the future.

I don't start with the past and go forward. The past is only useful to motivate you to create the steps that help you move forward. What has caused the behavior will come out, but examining the past I will leave up to counselors and psychologists. We all have our place.

My method is a forward thinking approach for my clients. I have two nicknames from friends that are appropriate and that explain my method: George, like the curious monkey and Tigger, like the positive, bouncy tiger. I want to instill a curiosity and wonder for knowledge that changes lives while pointing you to gratitude and positivity even in the midst of the storm around you.

Positivity in storms

Are you curious about the possibilities that my coaching can open up? Are you willing to focus on ever ounce of gratitude while in your storm?

Let's chat. First session is free to see if my services can benefit you and we will make a plan.

Email me at https://www.steepedinpurpose.com/contact

or text to schedule a chat at 817-992-3177.

To buy my book, Adoption Reimagined: Building Relationships in the Adoption Arena and What To Do When It Doesn't Work, click the link here.

Adoption ReImagined Excerpt: Chapter 4 Brain Health (Part 1)

My goal in this chapter is to explain what might have contributed to shaping your brain’s pathways and give you strategies to repair the broken pathway between the automatic systems in your brain and the logical, thinking part that helps you respond appropriately to drama, stress and disrespect others exhibit. I want to give you coping skills that make the ‘jump’ from involuntary reactions to intentional actions that are shorter in duration and less intense.

The human brain is so much more complex than a computer because we can pull from the past while living in the present and it affects our future. That is why being content and settled is so hard, we can’t put aside those bad experiences in the past. They affect our thinking, our actions and reactions.

Adoption is one of those circumstances that can lead to so many feelings and questions. Many times, even the answers and facts can’t satisfy because they cannot erase the previous feelings and long held beliefs. Logic from our neocortex does not help override the emotions we have created.

I have a very wise friend who deals with several mental illnesses who said, “Prepare your mind in the stable times for the unstable moments. Fill your mind with good things like scripture, music with positive messages, books that encourage and TV shows with wholesome messages. What you put into your mind,” she says, “will come to the forefront in times of panic and mania.” She practices surrounding herself with good people she trusts that understand how to help, encourage and support. She is open and honest with those people. She spends time with them volunteering, eating, shopping and worshiping together.

Reimagine your adoption by saying this below. Write it. Post it on a sticky you can see easily. Take it to heart. If you have learned emotions from your previous experiences, whatever they are, you can also avert them, recreate them and refocus on different ones, too. Try it 30 days!!

Adoption is a fact in my life. Adoption is not a guide. Adoption is not an obstacle. Adoption only has the power I give it.

Ripple Effects of Your Purpose

I find motivation in so many places to keep on keeping on. God has given me a purpose. I know God is communicating with me. I don't audibly hear Him, but I see signs everywhere. I've been looking for them for years and He just sent me another one.

I don't remember where this quote came from, but I knew it was a message for me. I set it as the lock screen on my phone to prompt me to 1) do what is in front of me to do, 2) do what I know I need to do, but don't feel like it, 3) don't do what I feel like doing in some cases.

Basically, I need to deny myself and choose to Do Life With God every day, every hour, every minute. Why? Because doing life with God translates doing my life for others... like Jesus did. Romans 8:29 says to conform into the image of his Son. His purpose was to make a way for others to be reconciled back to the Father. My life's mission is for my ripple effect to make the teaching about God our Savior attractive (Titus 2:10).

How am I doing that? Writing a book about my life. My adoption story is filled with stories and how people applied the lessons that make people say, "I want that!"

This little photo up in the clouds helps me remember that all lives touch other lives in a positive or negative way. I get to choose which way. I get to choose how intense the ripple is. I must let my story go out into the world and land where God wills! Right now, I have to get up when I don't want to get up to hear from God. I have to deny myself and do what God had set in front of me to do: share my most important asset with you... my story.