Two Areas My Coaching Can Help You Thrive in the Adoption Arena

I am a unique kind of Life Coach. My approach is different than what you may understand about Life Coaching.

Life Coaching is planning forward for the future.

I help my clients think forward, plan forward and build forward. There is really nothing in the past you need. The past is what brought you to this point: needing guidance. So, let me help you grow into something different than your past.

No one stood at a river wondering how they would cross and plan to built a bridge backwards in the opposite direction. No one, on their 10th anniversary, started planning their wedding.

No one builds a bridge backwards

#1 Relationships

Many adoptees want to build relationships using a backwards model of reclaiming or experiencing everything they have lost in the past.

I am here to help you move forward in relationships where you had to jump right in the middle of with no prior history. I don’t help you look back. I help you build a bridge forward, planning forward and thinking forward. I guide you to other paths when a bridge is not possible. That is hope even amid the scars.

There is HOPE even amid scars

#2 Behaviors

Many adoptees have identified their destructive behaviors— they don’t need the identification process. They need the strategies to help them move forward.

I am a different kind of Life Coach because I discuss behaviors in the present. I help them explain what they do. I discuss their future. I help them see what is possible and how to choose it in the future.

I don't start with the past and go forward. The past is only useful to motivate you to create the steps that help you move forward. What has caused the behavior will come out, but examining the past I will leave up to counselors and psychologists. We all have our place.

My method is a forward thinking approach for my clients. I have two nicknames from friends that are appropriate and that explain my method: George, like the curious monkey and Tigger, like the positive, bouncy tiger. I want to instill a curiosity and wonder for knowledge that changes lives while pointing you to gratitude and positivity even in the midst of the storm around you.

Positivity in storms

Are you curious about the possibilities that my coaching can open up? Are you willing to focus on ever ounce of gratitude while in your storm?

Let's chat. First session is free to see if my services can benefit you and we will make a plan.

Email me at https://www.steepedinpurpose.com/contact

or text to schedule a chat at 817-992-3177.

To buy my book, Adoption Reimagined: Building Relationships in the Adoption Arena and What To Do When It Doesn't Work, click the link here.

2023: See It Differently

Don’t be deceived in 2023. See it differently.

Is rest one of the things you long for in 2023? Is your mind racing with work responsibilities and tasks at home? Are you trying to figure out how to put in more 'self-care'? Are you planning to exercise? Do you strive to pray more or read more? Do you want to fit in a walk in solitude? Well, I want to help you see 2023 differently.

I believe that REST has nothing to do with how much activity you have going on at work, home or in your mind. Rest does not have to accompany quiet, walking in the woods, a bubble bath or a sleeping baby. You can rest at work, getting dinner ready, in the car pick up line at school and in the committee. Rest does not have to depend on your work load, your location, your list to check off or that long moment when no one needs you.

Rest is like joy in the sense that we talk about joy even in trials. 2 Corinthians 8:2 says, "In the midst of a very severe trial, their overflowing joy and their extreme poverty welled up in rich generosity." You can also have rest even in the busy, in the trials and in the chaos. James 1:2-3 says, "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance."

Rest can be achieved in any situation when you relax and find contentment regardless of circumstances.

Proverbs 19:23, "The fear of the Lord leads to life; then one rests content, untouched by trouble."

How can you be untouched by trouble?

We are called to imitate Jesus. He is humble and gentle and learning those characteristics would serve us well. Matthew 11:29 says, "Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls."

Learn the art of humility. That means you are considerate of other's perspective. It means not getting offended when others express something you don't agree with. Oh how peaceful it is when you do not allow yourself to get offended. It destroys any power they may have over you. It is the ability to relax while someone is passionately telling you why you are wrong or why you should believe what they believe. It is having confidence in what you believe regardless of any outside pressure. We want to fit in and be validated and accepted so much, but being humble in disagreement lavishes peace and contentment over your spirit and rest for your soul. Jesus took this to the extreme and was humble when being beaten, spit on and nailed.

Learn the art of being gentle. This means you are not harsh or violent. You can be kind in any circumstance. But don't think being gentle means being a doormat or pushover. Actually the opposite. Being gentle in overbearing situations is actually the sign of a mature person who can show self-control. Being gentle when every fiber of your being wants to lash out is actually stronger and harder than giving into the explosive behavior. Think of it this way: It's more impressive that a bomb does not go off after the fuse has been lit because it does not happen often. It's like lighting a bottle rocket, running away in anticipation and nothing happens. It was a dud. The situation is totally defused and unimpressive.

Being at rest is easy when you are at the beach, on the porch swing or on vacation, but more impressive is finding rest during disagreement, disrespect, disappointment and discouragement.

I challenge you to pre-plan your responses by writing down a list of your most challenging situations and people. Then, write how you will react, respond and the words you will use that are humble and gentle. When you learn to act counter-culture, counter your feelings, you will truly find out what it means to be free; free of fret, free of regret and free of grudges. And that allows you to rest, relax and be content in a world that is nothing but the opposite.

Ripple Effects of Your Purpose

I find motivation in so many places to keep on keeping on. God has given me a purpose. I know God is communicating with me. I don't audibly hear Him, but I see signs everywhere. I've been looking for them for years and He just sent me another one.

I don't remember where this quote came from, but I knew it was a message for me. I set it as the lock screen on my phone to prompt me to 1) do what is in front of me to do, 2) do what I know I need to do, but don't feel like it, 3) don't do what I feel like doing in some cases.

Basically, I need to deny myself and choose to Do Life With God every day, every hour, every minute. Why? Because doing life with God translates doing my life for others... like Jesus did. Romans 8:29 says to conform into the image of his Son. His purpose was to make a way for others to be reconciled back to the Father. My life's mission is for my ripple effect to make the teaching about God our Savior attractive (Titus 2:10).

How am I doing that? Writing a book about my life. My adoption story is filled with stories and how people applied the lessons that make people say, "I want that!"

This little photo up in the clouds helps me remember that all lives touch other lives in a positive or negative way. I get to choose which way. I get to choose how intense the ripple is. I must let my story go out into the world and land where God wills! Right now, I have to get up when I don't want to get up to hear from God. I have to deny myself and do what God had set in front of me to do: share my most important asset with you... my story.