- Erin E. McEndree
- 4 days ago
- 2 min read
The way you think about your beginning shows your heart‘s health.
As an adoptee, I refuse to make up a whole fantasy story about my beginning. I can assume I must’ve felt abandoned and rejected when I was born. I could revert all the way back to my birth (52 years in my case) and say every bad thing in my life was because of it and what immediately followed. That is a waste of time.
Dwelling and obsessing on the past causes more heart trauma than heart health. It’s not beneficial to my life. How can pining away at something I know nothing about be beneficial to me at all? Reimagine your adoption.
“I decided it [adoption] would not make me feel loss. I would not be deceived to think I missed out. I decided it would be a fun fact to know, not a broken rudder steering me into a sea of emotion.” Adoption Reimagined page 73
What guides me and brings me comfort? Based on Truth, God knew exactly where I needed to be and how best to reach me.
“From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands. God did this so that they would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from any one of us. ‘For in him we live and move and have our being.’ As some of your own poets have said, ‘We are his offspring.’ “ Acts 17:26-28
I focus on faith, peace, contentment, and joy. I refuse to let adoption, create confusion, drama, chaos, doubt, fear, bitterness, depression, anxiety, and cause my mind to make up struggles in my life that are not even there.
I focus forward on love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
I lean on this Truth: “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”Philippians 3:12-14
For me, this Scripture is proof that there is nothing back there I need. Not an explanation. Not an original birth certificate. Not the identity of my birth father. Not even an apology.
The heart of your matter is this by John Bevere, “How you react under pressure is how the real you reacts."
The way you react to your beginning shows your heart’s health. Do you need a tune-up? Do you need a heart transplant? Do you need to reimagine your adoption?
If you want to know more about the strategies from Adoption Reimagined, DM me and I’ll send you a list.