Adoption Reimagined New Year

It is January 1, 2026. I actually saw the new year after I woke up from the couch. I woke up again around 4am and had this song on my heart: “Create in me a clean heart, oh God, and renew a right spirit within me.” (“Oh sing to the Lord a new song…” Psalm 96:1)

At the beginning of a new year, people seem to ponder on what went right, what went wrong, and make plans for the future. Ponder this: do you dwell on the positive or do you dwell on all the negative that happened to you this past year? Are you the Eeyore or the Tigger?

I have not made a New Year’s resolution in more than a decade, but what I do make is a conscious effort that if I see something that reminds me of someone, I get it for them. The only time I have broken this is when the thing is way out of my price range.

So, what do you ponder about the for the future? I mean, after New Year’s Day parade and football, what do you want new? What do you desire in 2026? A new car? A new house? A new job?

Let me give you some options that are deeper than any temporary thing you might acquire this year.

*A new heart and spirit: “And I [the Lord] will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you.” Ezekiel 36:26

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A new self: “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you… and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator.” Colossians 3:5, 10

*A New and Living Way through Jesus: “Therefore, brothers and sisters, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.”

Hebrews 10:19-20,22

*A New name: “… To the one who is victorious, I will give some of the hidden manna. I will also give that person a white stone with a new name written on it, known only to the one who receives it.” Revelation 2:17

*All things new: “He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” ...”

Revelation 21:5

So when you are planning some new changes, think about what is beneficial for your eternity. Spend time with God. Find an intimate relationship with Jesus. Declutter your mind of anger, bitterness and regret. Make a lifestyle full of grace, forgiveness and selflessness.

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Adoption Reimagined: The Heart of You Matters

The way you handle other people’s gratitude shows your heart’s health. 

Some cannot be thankful or show gratitude towards others because …. I’ll just say it… they think it’s all about them. Is that you? Are you incapable of showing gratitude towards others because you filter everything through your broken story! 

It is possible to acknowledge other people‘s viewpoint and simultaneously, not adopt their position. How? Don’t compare. 

“Even if your situations are completely different, offering a compassionate ear and appropriate reaction can be a balm for many hurt feelings. No story can be compared with another.” Adoption Reimagined, page 24

Comparison focuses on the differences.

Comparison steals the joy and casts a shadow over gratitude.

It is healthy to learn to have a balanced state where one emotion does not take over. Is your personality bent towards the negative? Are you bossy or pushy?

Having that emotional balance is achievable. How? 

“… take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ." 2 Corinthians 10:5

Here are some ways to take every thought captive:

1. Intentionally imagine yourself handling your emotions in a positive way when you are triggered before it happens.

2. Intentionally examine what you put into your mind, heart and soul. It will come out. Eliminate what is not beneficial.

3. What can you intentionally add to your lifestyle that is positive that changes your mindset? 

4. Keep life simple by decluttering your space. 

5. Make a list of what you are grateful for. Read it every morning and every night and add to it.

6. Determine what you can control and what you can’t. Pray for the things you can’t control and how you can have a different perspective about them.

The heart of your matter is this: Gratitude is a way to guide your feelings instead of allowing your feelings to guide you.

The way you react to others who are grateful shows your heart’s health. Do you need a tune-up? Do you need a heart transplant? Do you need to reimagine your adoption?

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Adoption Reimagined: The Heart of You Matters

The way you think about your beginning shows your heart‘s health.

As an adoptee, I refuse to make up a whole fantasy story about my beginning. I can assume I must’ve felt abandoned and rejected when I was born. I could revert all the way back to my birth (52 years in my case) and say every bad thing in my life was because of it and what immediately followed. That is a waste of time.

Dwelling and obsessing on the past causes more heart trauma than heart health. It’s not beneficial to my life. How can pining away at something I know nothing about be beneficial to me at all? Reimagine your adoption.

“I decided it [adoption] would not make me feel loss. I would not be deceived to think I missed out. I decided it would be a fun fact to know, not a broken rudder steering me into a sea of emotion.” Adoption Reimagined page 73

What guides me and brings me comfort? Based on Truth, God knew exactly where I needed to be and how best to reach me.

“From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands. God did this so that they would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from any one of us. ‘For in him we live and move and have our being.’ As some of your own poets have said, ‘We are his offspring.’ “ Acts 17:26-28

I focus on faith, peace, contentment, and joy. I refuse to let adoption, create confusion, drama, chaos, doubt, fear, bitterness, depression, anxiety, and cause my mind to make up struggles in my life that are not even there.

I focus forward on love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

I lean on this Truth: “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”Philippians 3:12-14

For me, this Scripture is proof that there is nothing back there I need. Not an explanation. Not an original birth certificate. Not the identity of my birth father. Not even an apology.

The heart of your matter is this by John Bevere, “How you react under pressure is how the real you reacts."

The way you react to your beginning shows your heart’s health. Do you need a tune-up? Do you need a heart transplant? Do you need to reimagine your adoption?

If you want to know more about the strategies from Adoption Reimagined, DM me and I’ll send you a list.

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